Positivity and Wellbeing
Reflecting on Unpleasant Emotions
Hey there - how are you doing? What is bringing you joy at the moment?
I listened to Tarana Burke - author and founder of the #metoo movement, and she reminded me that you could feel great joy and great sorrow or pain simultaneously. (Ever laughed at a funeral??)
Whilst I embed wellbeing and positivity in my teaching, it's not because I want you to run around pumping sunshine and engaging in toxic positivity. My biz is called Positively Beaming, for all sorts of subtle reasons, but NONE of th…
Do you ever get to the end of the week and think,
FAR OUT that was a crazy week - but what have I achieved??
I am sure the answer is YES!
You are definitely not alone.
Most of us start the week with awesome intentions. We know that we would like to spend more time with our staff and build relationships.
We know that we have that big document to write or strategic thinking to do. On Sunday we write ourselves a "Worry List" (You might call it a To-Do list, but I call it a Worry List because …
The One Thing I Could Do All Day
The one thing I could do all day, every day, is to listen to people tell their stories. To sit on my coaching couch and talk to clever women about their successes, their fears, their joy and the places at which they get stuck. Most clients will go through the motions with me but the clients I could spend all day with are the ones who are prepared to go all-in, get uncomfortable, receive feedback, question it in their own head, fight it and push through to a new solution.
I love it when it go…
Put down what is not yours to carry
At my local park where I walk my dog, they also host junior hockey on the weekends. As I was waiting for Albert to sniff every tree and goal post I watched families arrive for what must have been an under 10 mixed-gender match. It was cold and windy and I am thinking kudos to parents who do this at 8am on a bleak Saturday morning.
A well-dressed Dad hops out of his lovely car and says to his son, “Did you bring your jacket mate?”
Of course, the 10 year old boy said, “No.”
Dad said in a matt…
Change is not hard. Transitions are hard.
A couple of weeks ago, I was travelling down south for work (and a little pleasure) so I listened to a few podcasts. I have a love for true crime .... I can't listen to high-brow stuff all the time. Randomly, at the end of Australian True Crime, an astrologer came on and what she had to say was fascinating.
She said that Astrologers had been predicting the turmoil of 2020 for some time. The last time certain planets were in alignment was at the start of the industrial revolution - where life a…
Musings on Resilience
I have been thinking a lot about resilience again lately. It's something that has fascinated me since I crashed and burned in my first career. Now that the universe has stirred up a tsunami of challenging events, I have been watching carefully again.
Our brain is hard-wired to make us safe. Our brain is velcro for the bad stuff and Teflon for the good. In evolutionary terms, there was no point noticing a beautiful flower when you were about to be eaten by a tiger. Sadly that same pre-historic a…
Simple Strategies for Dealing with Feedback
A wise person once told me that feedback is a treasure hunt not a witch hunt. The idea is to look for the gold and if there is not much then to look for the lesson and what can be learned.
But most of us would rather have root canal surgery than give or receive corrective feedback and so we miss the treasure that someone might be handing us.
1. Stop Your First Reaction
At the first sign of critical feedback, before you do anything—stop. Really. Try not to react at all! You’ll have at least on…
Pesky Feedback... Don't swat it away, get curious
Every creature on earth has a purpose – even flies, which are annoying and can ruin a good picnic.
Feedback can be like that too.
We need feedback to grow and develop but boy-o-boy can it ruin your day!
We are getting feedback ALL THE TIME but mostly we don’t notice it.
If it doesn’t come in the language or currency we understand, we brush it off not even registering it as feedback. Batting it away like a pesky fly – barely giving it a thought.
Until that fly buzzes past again, and again u…
Asking for help is not a faux pas!
Hands up if you are busy and could do with another pair of hands??
I think we all could.
But here's the thing…
You can! Below are some options but I want you to notice what your internal dialogue is telling you when you read them...
- You can ask the people around you for help - your kids, your staff, your partner - and then keep them accountable.
- You can pay people
Curious to know what the voices in your head are saying right now???
Let's pretend you are in a leadership role in a schoo…
Can I get a round of applause for...
Appreciation in the workplace can sometimes be tricky.
Do any of these things go through your head?
- Praise one of them and ya gotta praise them all.
- They get paid, don't they?
- Yeah, but who notices ME??
- I am always giving recognition but no one seems to notice.
NOW is absolutely the time to make sure that your workplace stops and acknowledges, recognises and celebrates individual contributions.
Why? Because everyone is exhausted and starting to feel that no one notices how hard they w…
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