Are you comfortable with discomfort?

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Upon reflecting recently, I felt that my coaching had become a bit stale of late. My own coach had given me feedback, modelled some awesome strategies and reignited a spark.

I went back to some of my valued texts (both on leadership and coaching) and reminded myself of things I had forgotten.

And then, quite by accident on a podcast, I heard the quote:


"Coach the person, not the problem"

 

I had become lazy and slipped into problem-solving instead of coaching!!!

 

I often talk about not…

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Looking back and looking forward - musings about being in the moment

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I once heard someone say:

Depression is worrying about the past and anxiety is worrying about the future.

Like most sound bites, this is mostly true and largely inaccurate.

However, it will work for my purposes.

I almost never look back.

I find it very difficult to re-read material or re-watch videos I have made in the past.

While I collect feedback on my workshops, I rarely ruminate on it. No point - the workshop is over. I add the constructive feedback to my mental list of do better …

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Positively Productive

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Do you ever get to the end of the week and think,

FAR OUT that was a crazy week - but what have I achieved??

I am sure the answer is YES!

You are definitely not alone. 

Most of us start the week with awesome intentions. We know that we would like to spend more time with our staff and build relationships.

We know that we have that big document to write or strategic thinking to do. On Sunday we write ourselves a "Worry List" (You might call it a To-Do list, but I call it a Worry List because …

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Why helping is not always helpful

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Are you a nice person?

Do you try to be helpful?

When people, like your kids, your team, your staff, come to you with a problem, do you love that feeling of being able to find a solution?

Me too!

Being helpful is a good thing.

Being tooooo helpful or attaching your self worth to the quality of your advice ........ well, that is the fast lane to burnout.


Most of us are so bloody busy that when someone shares their problem, we jump in after 30 seconds with advice and solutions. 

Often w…

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Busting Leadership Myths: You are Ready to Lead!

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Do you feel you are not brave enough, qualified enough, ready enough to lead confidently and authentically? 

Let me tell you a secret... You are ready to lead, NOW.


Myth 1

Leaders are men, in suits

Well, I think that Jacinda, Kamala and a bunch of other awesome women have blown that myth out of the water lately. When we only see men in power OR when the women we see are acting in a way that feels aggressive or masculine, then it is really easy to believe that you need to have balls to be a…

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This week in coaching

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Every Sunday, I share a newsletter with my list, and amongst other things, I share some of the coaching conversations that I have had. It seems that many of the themes are universal, so I will share those conversations here on the blog.

Questioning Assumptions and Back to Basics

I was coaching a Head of Learning Area in a secondary school this week, and she described 3 staff with very different personalities and how they were challenging her. Lots of ah-ha moments were shared in this coaching …

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What blue hair has taught me about confidence.

I have a confession

My white/grey/silver hair is not natural. It is completely artificial by my bestie and hairdresser Cameron. I wrote the full story some time ago, and you can catch it here.

This year, putting together Launching into Leadership and my other online programs involved months of filming my white face and white hair against a white wall. All this had me pining for a change. I tried those flash virtual backgrounds with limited success - the artificial intelligence couldn’t tel…

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The One Thing I Could Do All Day

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The one thing I could do all day, every day, is to listen to people tell their stories. To sit on my coaching couch and talk to clever women about their successes, their fears, their joy and the places at which they get stuck. Most clients will go through the motions with me but the clients I could spend all day with are the ones who are prepared to go all-in, get uncomfortable, receive feedback, question it in their own head, fight it and push through to a new solution.

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I love it when it go…

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Being Authentic

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“I love your hair,” drawled Pricilla from Texas. “Sooo great you have embraced your grey.”

This was not the first time I have been congratulated for going grey. Embracing our natural ‘sparkles’ is quite the thing at the moment and to grow-out the dye we’ve been using every four weeks.

But here’s the thing.

The shameful, inauthentic, embarrassing thing.

This grey is no more real than the deep brown before it or the gothic black of my 20’s. It is 1000% man made – bleached and toned every few w…

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Put down what is not yours to carry

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At my local park where I walk my dog, they also host junior hockey on the weekends. As I was waiting for Albert to sniff every tree and goal post I watched families arrive for what must have been an under 10 mixed-gender match. It was cold and windy and I am thinking kudos to parents who do this at 8am on a bleak Saturday morning.

A well-dressed Dad hops out of his lovely car and says to his son, “Did you bring your jacket mate?”

Of course, the 10 year old boy said, “No.”

Dad said in a matt…

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