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How to be a Person of Influence
Recently I was asked to facilitate a panel for Catholic Women in Education and the topic was How to Be a Person of Influence. Below is my presentation.
When we talk about the ability to influence people or what it takes to be a person of influence it often feels a little coercive as if you're trying to persuade people to do something that they are not necessarily comfortable with. The curious thing about influence though is that it cannot be achieved through intimidation and coercion you get co…
The Unicorn Teacher
I was always that kid at school. No, not the kid that was acting out or throwing spit balls or climbing onto the roof. No, I was the kid that sat at the front, put my hand up to every question, did everything that I was supposed to and absolutely adored every single minute of school.
School was always super easy for me. There was always lots of exciting things to do, I could read, I could write, I could occasionally colour in between the lines and I had some pretty amazing teachers. So I guess …
Are you comfortable with discomfort?
Upon reflecting recently, I felt that my coaching had become a bit stale of late. My own coach had given me feedback, modelled some awesome strategies and reignited a spark.
I went back to some of my valued texts (both on leadership and coaching) and reminded myself of things I had forgotten.
And then, quite by accident on a podcast, I heard the quote:
"Coach the person, not the problem"
I had become lazy and slipped into problem-solving instead of coaching!!!
I often talk about not…
Does your ego get involved when someone makes a complaint about you?
Does your ego get triggered?
Do you say or do things you are not proud of?
You are not alone.
Don't go big, go TINY, to achieve your goals.
The seed of every habit is a single, tiny decision. James Clear Atomic Habits
If you joined me for the recent Goals with Soul session you'll know that I teach that goals are the habits that you want to create, you'll also know that one of my goals for this year is to drink more water. Specifically, my ismart goal is: By June 30th I will be regularly be drinking 2+ litres of what a day so that I feel healthier. This is not a "big picture goal" for me but it is one habit that I know will make me…
Looking back and looking forward - musings about being in the moment
I once heard someone say:
Depression is worrying about the past and anxiety is worrying about the future.
Like most sound bites, this is mostly true and largely inaccurate.
However, it will work for my purposes.
I almost never look back.
I find it very difficult to re-read material or re-watch videos I have made in the past.
While I collect feedback on my workshops, I rarely ruminate on it. No point - the workshop is over. I add the constructive feedback to my mental list of do better …
Reflecting on Unpleasant Emotions
Hey there - how are you doing? What is bringing you joy at the moment?
I listened to Tarana Burke - author and founder of the #metoo movement, and she reminded me that you could feel great joy and great sorrow or pain simultaneously. (Ever laughed at a funeral??)
Whilst I embed wellbeing and positivity in my teaching, it's not because I want you to run around pumping sunshine and engaging in toxic positivity. My biz is called Positively Beaming, for all sorts of subtle reasons, but NONE of th…
Do you ever get to the end of the week and think,
FAR OUT that was a crazy week - but what have I achieved??
I am sure the answer is YES!
You are definitely not alone.
Most of us start the week with awesome intentions. We know that we would like to spend more time with our staff and build relationships.
We know that we have that big document to write or strategic thinking to do. On Sunday we write ourselves a "Worry List" (You might call it a To-Do list, but I call it a Worry List because …
Why helping is not always helpful
Are you a nice person?
Do you try to be helpful?
When people, like your kids, your team, your staff, come to you with a problem, do you love that feeling of being able to find a solution?
Being helpful is a good thing.
Being tooooo helpful or attaching your self worth to the quality of your advice ........ well, that is the fast lane to burnout.
Most of us are so bloody busy that when someone shares their problem, we jump in after 30 seconds with advice and solutions.
Busting Leadership Myths: You are Ready to Lead!
Do you feel you are not brave enough, qualified enough, ready enough to lead confidently and authentically?
Let me tell you a secret... You are ready to lead, NOW.
Leaders are men, in suits
Well, I think that Jacinda, Kamala and a bunch of other awesome women have blown that myth out of the water lately. When we only see men in power OR when the women we see are acting in a way that feels aggressive or masculine, then it is really easy to believe that you need to have balls to be a…
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